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by the way

It wasn't fleas, it was allergies.

Now the dog is back on expensive allergy medication and the scratch-fest has come to an end, and the cat who also got a flea-bath for no other reason than that she was around, has a very legitimate reason to hate me.

Thoughts on " How to Be Alone"

I have watched this movie 4 times since yesterday afternoon. I want to write out what it brings to mind.

I love this movie so much that if I could package it up and send it to everyone in the world as well-intentioned junk mail I totally would.

There are well-intentioned remarks, "If you stop looking you'll find someone". "You're probably just not really looking for a relationship, because if you were, you'd find one." Designed for the chronically single. I even tell them to myself, when I come home at night and wish that there were more then just my shoes in the closet.

But those statements don't really express what I feel about "lonely". This movie comes closer to describing what I have been trying to do in a "personal growth" (gag me) way for the past, I don't even know how many years, then anything ever has.

Maybe this story started when my mom died, maybe it started when I was 16 and had my first 'real' relationship.

More about Big Love

It's late so I won't say much.

But I want to mention that one thing I love about Big Love is how close to the perfect the scripting is around issues of family dysfunction and healing.

In the latest episode, Nicki says point blank to her husband. "I get so angry about how we were raised sometimes. I wish I could be more like you." He says, "Well you can't hang on to the past, you just have to move on." To which she replies. " I don't think I can, there's something in me that's damaged."

Winter biking

Memory Tapes - Bicycle

This is the 3rd or 4th track by these guys that I have loved on Hype M. So I think I should go buy the album. I wish I could find Happy Cycling by Boards of Canada then my day would be complete.

Boards of Canada - happy Cycling

Update:Thank you Erin for the track, and thank you windchill for not attacking me this evening on the way home. I swear that was almost pleasant, I think the wind must have been at my back.